Office Hours with Arthur Brooks

Faith and spirituality are on the decline—but what does that mean for our happiness and sense of meaning?
In this episode of Office Hours, I approach that question not as a theologian, but as a social scientist. I explore a fundamental truth: human beings are wired to seek meaning beyond themselves. The problem today is that we're missing out on this essential part of human life.
I’ll share a three-part plan to help you transcend yourself—one that helps you manage anxiety and loneliness—and invite you to reflect more deeply on what you believe, and why it matters. And to learn more on this, check out my new book, The Meaning of Your Life (out March 31).
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Timestamps:
(00:00) Intro
(01:40) Why faith and spirituality matter for meaning
(03:00) Decline of traditional religiosity in the U.S.
(05:20) The rise of the “nones” and generational shifts
(07:45) Americans vs. other wealthy nations on religion
(09:30) Is society inevitably becoming secular?
(11:45) What brain science tells us about spirituality
(14:20) Spiritual experiences and reduced stress responses
(16:40) Mystical memory, theta waves, and altered states
(18:55) How spirituality protects against depression and anxiety
(21:10) Spirituality, loneliness, and social connection
(23:40) Make yourself smaller: why self-focus makes us miserable
(29:10) Why thinking less about yourself improves performance
(31:20) Transcendence across religions and philosophies
(34:00) Faith without conversion: meaning beyond belief
(36:10) How to explore faith (and my new book, The Meaning of Your Life)
(37:50) Q&A: loving someone who is depressed
(40:10) Q&A: missionaries vs. psychologists and happiness
(42:15) Q&A: grief, loss, and where to turn
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Referenced:
• The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness: https://www.amazon.com/Meaning-Your-Life-Finding-Emptiness/dp/0593545427
• The Happiness Scale: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/the-happiness-scale 
• U.S. church membership falls below majority for first time: https://news.gallup.com/poll/341963/church-membership-falls-below-majority-first-time.aspx 
• “Nones” on the rise: https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2012/10/09/nones-on-the-rise/ 
• More Americans say they’re spiritual, but not religious: https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2017/09/06/more-americans-now-say-theyre-spiritual-but-not-religious/ 
• Awakened Brain: https://www.amazon.com/Awakened-Brain-Science-Spirituality-Inspired/dp/198485562X 
• EEG activity in Carmelite nuns during a mystical experience: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18721862/
• ...References continued at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.arthurbrooks.com/office-hours⁠⁠

Not all leisure is created equal—some of it feels good in the moment (pleasure) but leaves you depleted afterward. Other forms of leisure actually restore you (enjoyment). They lift you up, deepen your sense of meaning, and make you more fully alive. The difference matters, and leisure well used is a skill—and it’s one you can cultivate.
In this episode of Office Hours, I explore what leisure truly is and why it’s essential to happiness. Drawing on both philosophy and modern behavioral science, I explain why contemplation, art, time in nature, learning, and deep connection with others feed you in ways that passive diversion can’t. 
The goal is not to squeeze more activity into your life. It’s to live more deliberately, in ways that genuinely support your happiness. And if you’re not sure where you stand, take The Happiness Scale to see whether enjoyment is an area that needs strengthening.
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Timestamps:
(00:00) Intro
(06:15) What enjoyment is, and why pleasure falls short
(12:37) Pieper’s case for leisure as the basis of culture
(15:22) The kind of leisure to avoid
(19:22) What true leisure is
(23:58) How connecting with beauty affects your brain
(30:50) The benefits of time in nature
(35:56) Structure your leisure 
(39:50) Don’t waste your leisure 
(42:11) Set leisure goals 
(44:48) Why our culture focuses too much on work
(46:48) Q&A: The benefits of volunteering
(48:01) Q&A: Helping others with cynicism and skepticism 
(49:53) Q&A: Teaching happiness to kids
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Referenced:
• The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness: https://www.amazon.com/Meaning-Your-Life-Finding-Emptiness/dp/0593545427
• The Happiness Scale: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/the-happiness-scale 
• The Four Cardinal Virtues: https://www.amazon.com/Four-Cardinal-Virtues-Josef-Pieper/dp/0268001030 
• Leisure the Basis of Culture: https://www.amazon.com/Leisure-Basis-Culture-Josef-Pieper/dp/0865972109
• The Three Macronutrients of Happiness, and How to Measure Yours: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/podcast/the-three-macronutrients-of-happiness-and-how-to-measure-yours
• Brahmamuhurta: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brahmamuhurta
• Routine and Project-Based Leisure, Happiness, and Meaning in Life: https://www.nrpa.org/globalassets/journals/jlr/2012/volume-44/jlr-volume-44-number-2-pp-139-154.pdf
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Codie Sanchez (founder of Contrarian Thinking and author of Main Street Millionaire) believes ownership changes lives. Her mission is bold and specific: create one million business owners. But beneath that mission is a deeper argument about how taking control of your life can help you not only be more successful, but happier. 
In this episode of Office Hours, Codie and I explore her philosophy of happiness, built around three requirements: progress, freedom, and ownership. We explore what those ideas can mean to each of us personally. Why earning your own money shapes your sense of agency. Why responsibility, taken voluntarily, can increase satisfaction. And why ownership is not just about assets, but about how you take responsibility for your life.
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• Contrarian Thinking: https://www.contrarianthinking.co
More from Codie: 
Codie hosts an annual 3-day virtual workshop to help you find, buy, and build a business… and it’s happening this Feb 20-22! Come learn what Wall Street (and your boss) hope you never learn: https://contrarianthinking.biz/MSML_BDYT26.
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Timestamps:
(00:00) Intro
(04:54) Codie’s current big project
(08:47) What Main Street Millionaire is about and why it resonated so widely
(10:54) Codie’s pivot away from journalism to finance
(14:14) The realization that finance would not bring happiness
(17:58) Codie’s mission statement 
(19:58) Why earning your own money matters 
(23:50) Why unsexy careers tend to be more profitable 
(27:53) The case for entrepreneurship
(29:10) Why CEOs must love the job 
(32:14) Codie’s three happiness principles 
(33:18) The need for progress
(40:07) How to maintain future-thinking without sacrificing your happiness 
(43:07) The case for taking on more responsibility 
(44:52) Setting the right goals to make progress 
(51:59) Freedom is a key ingredient
(59:40) What to look for in a marriage 
(1:04:15) The power of ownership
(1:10:45) A summary of the three requirements for happiness
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Referenced:
• The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness: https://www.amazon.com/Meaning-Your-Life-Finding-Emptiness/dp/0593545427
• The Happiness Scale: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/the-happiness-scale 
• Main Street Millionaire: How to Make Extraordinary Wealth Buying Ordinary Businesses: https://www.amazon.com/Main-Street-Millionaire-Extraordinary-Businesses/dp/0593718615
• The Songhurst Matrix: A Game-Changer for Project Management: https://sebastianstrobl.net/2024/08/02/the-songhurst-matrix-a-game-changer-for-project-management/
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Today’s topic: love. Forget Valentine’s Day—where romance only happens once a year. Try my new book, The Meaning of Your Life, out March 31, where I describe how to make love lifelong.
Many people today feel discouraged about love. Fewer people are getting married, fewer are falling in love, and more are opting out of romance altogether. This isn’t just a personal problem—it’s a cultural one.
In this episode of Office Hours, I explore what’s happening to romantic love and why it matters so deeply to our sense of meaning in life. Drawing on neuroscience, psychology, and ancient wisdom, I examine what love actually is, what happens when we fall in love, and why heartbreak is often a necessary part of learning to love well. I also share three practical rules for finding love in a time when many people are afraid to risk it at all.
This episode isn’t about dating advice or quick fixes. It’s about understanding love as one of the most powerful paths to meaning, growth, and a life well lived, even when it doesn’t come easily.
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Timestamps:
(00:00) Intro
(03:34) Arthur and Ester’s love story 
(06:44) Why entrepreneurial love stories are dwindling
(07:44) Data on the decline in love, marriage, and sex
(11:10) What happens when you’re falling in love
(23:37) Why relationships don’t work out 
(26:42) The mystical side of romantic love
(30:40) What love is and why the English language falls short of explaining it
(35:10) Love lessons from the Greeks 
(40:25) Rule 1: Take more risks
(48:01) Rule 2: Look for your complement 
(52:02) Rule 3: Don’t fear the breakup 
(55:52) Q&A: Are there different types of decision-makers
(57:10) Q&A: The effects of cold plunges
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Referenced:
• The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness: https://www.amazon.com/Meaning-Your-Life-Finding-Emptiness/dp/0593545427
• The Happiness Scale: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/the-happiness-scale
•Understanding the Science of Love: A Practical Guide: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/love 
• Don Quixote: https://www.amazon.com/Quixote-Penguin-Classics-Cervantes-Saavedra/dp/0142437239
• Oxytocin: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/22618-oxytocin 
• Vasopressin: https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/neuroscience/vasopressin
• The sociopaths among us: How to spot (and avoid) a Dark Triad: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/podcast/the-sociopaths-among-us-how-to-spot-and-avoid-a-dark-triad 
• Emophilia: An overlooked (but not forgotten) construct in relationships and individual differences: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886924000114 
• 3 Steps to Managing Your Emotions: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/podcast/3-steps-to-managing-your-emotions
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If you’ve been feeling empty or lonely and are looking for immediate solutions, I hope today’s episode helps—and if you want to go deeper, you can order my new book, The Meaning of Your Life, out March 31.
Today’s topic: the loneliness epidemic. We know more people than ever before, but do we actually know them? In a world of constant connection, many people still feel unseen, unknown, and disconnected from those around them.
In this episode of Office Hours, I explore why loneliness has become so widespread and how it shows up in our relationships. I talk about the difference between being known and being understood, why feeling understood matters so much for happiness, and how modern habits and technologies can make it easier to stay in touch while avoiding real connection.
Change means pushing back against our instincts and doing things that feel like the opposite of what we want. That can sound daunting, but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. In this episode, I share four simple habits that, with practice, become easier and help lay the groundwork for more meaningful relationships.
If you’ve been feeling lonely, this episode explores what happens when we stop waiting for that feeling to fix itself.
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Timestamps:
(00:00) Introduction
(04:31) What Edgar Allan Poe’s life reveals about loneliness
(07:39) The difference between being known and being understood
(09:43) Why feeling known is essential for happiness
(12:38) What fMRI studies reveal about being understood
(15:33) Give what you want to get in relationships
(17:01) Why being known by your spouse matters for happiness
(18:30) Why loneliness is rising among young people and the role of technology
(19:27) How loneliness becomes self-reinforcing
(21:08) Strategy #1: The opposite signal strategy
(24:15) Strategy #2: Proactively knowing others
(27:28) Strategy #3: Asking more questions
(30:33) Strategy #4: Putting your phone away
(32:15) Why loneliness requires proactive effort
(33:16) Q&A: Which times of day matter most for limiting screens?
(34:47) Q&A: How can you let go of shame around anxiety?
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Referenced:
• The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness: https://www.amazon.com/Meaning-Your-Life-Finding-Emptiness/dp/0593545427
• The Happiness Scale: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/the-happiness-scale 
• Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World: https://www.amazon.com/Together-Connection-Performance-Greater-Happiness/dp/0062913298
• “Alone” by Edgar Allan Poe: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/46477/alone-56d2265f2667d 
• New Cigna Study Reveals Loneliness at Epidemic Levels in America: https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/new-cigna-study-reveals-loneliness-at-epidemic-levels-in-america-300639747.html 
• The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11575524 
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