She's So Lucky

#365: Three years ago when Blake Newby first joined me on the show, life looked a little different. She was in the thick of her Saturn return, still untangling herself from traditional media, betting everything on herself with zero proof it would work.

She's back, and now she's watching those bets pay off in ways she couldn't have scripted. Blake joins me to talk about what it actually feels like when the things you manifested start coming true, and why getting there doesn't erase what it cost to get there.

This is an honest conversation about staying grounded while an entire industry falls apart around you: building your own platform when nobody's handing you opportunities, protecting your integrity when the money gets tempting, and learning to call on something bigger than yourself to keep moving.

We talk about:
Revisiting the thesis of Blake's first episode, "it's expensive to dream," three years later
Protecting your integrity as the stakes (and the money) get bigger
The collapse of traditional and digital media, and why you have to build your own thing now
Becoming a more responsible, media-literate consumer in the age of misinformation and AI
Beauty and fashion as inheritance, joy, and politics, not just aesthetics
Finding alignment through spirituality

Episode Links:
Follow Blake on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blakelawren/
Follow Blake on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@blakenewby_
Episode 207: The Truth About Working Towards Your Dream Career with Blake Newby: https://youtu.be/2dElf_NyOSE
Subscribe to Blake’s podcast, According to Blake: https://www.youtube.com/@AccordingToBlake

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#364: In this week's episode of She's So Lucky, I'm sitting down with returning guest, psychologist, and bestselling author Dr. Marisa G. Franco to talk about the science of self-worth and why so much of what we call "identity" is actually just an old memory in disguise.
You might remember Marisa from our February 2023 conversation on platonic intimacy, which ended up being our top episode of the year. She's back this time to talk about her new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment, and this conversation picks up right where that one left off.
Marisa breaks down the difference between the "good twin" and "bad twin" of high self-esteem, why the healthiest people are often the ones who feel their feelings instead of pushing them away, and how memory reconsolidation can actually change the way old pain sits in your body.
Marisa and I talk about how attachment styles became status symbols, why "secure" turned into something people perform instead of something people feel, and why she prefers the term "secure-ish." We also talk about ambition, and why wanting more doesn't automatically mean you're operating from a wound.
This one's tender, it's smart, and it's going to have you thinking about your own memories differently for a long time after you finish listening.

This episode is for you if:
You've ever felt like the other shoe is about to drop, even when things are going well
You reject compliments or feel weird when people are nice to you
You've used attachment theory or self-help language to build an identity instead of understanding a feeling
You're tired of the "love yourself unconditionally, all the time" messaging and want something more real
You're questioning whether your ambition is coming from a healthy place or an old wound
You want to understand the actual neuroscience behind why certain memories keep showing up in your body
You're ready to stop shaming the parts of yourself that are still healing
You want language for what it feels like to be loved and still not feel lovable

Episode Links:
Intimacy in Friendships: Having Healthier Friendships and Making Friends As An Adult with Dr. Marisa G. Franco: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0YZPgrhNWqFtJLyN1BSj2r?si=338a3c77357d46e2
Get Dr. Franco’s new book Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment https://bookshop.org/a/55347/9798217046591
Follow Dr. Franco on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/
Check out Dr. Franco’s website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/

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#363: In two years, Marina Middleton went from a first-time Create & Cultivate attendee to co-owner and CEO of the company. Now, three years into running it, she’s sharing the honest truth about what it looks like to be on the other side of a major quantum leap.
Marina joins me to talk about the moment she realized she’d lost her spark, and what she did to get it back. If you’ve ever felt like you have to choose between the career you’re building and building a family, or you struggle with tying your work to your worth, this one is for you.
This episode is an honest conversation about reclaiming your ambition without sacrificing the people you love, or running yourself into the ground.

We talk about:
The DM that turned Marina into co-owner and CEO of Create & Cultivate
How to separate your worth from your work
Why ambition isn’t something to be ashamed of, and how to reclaim it
How to get your spark back after a period of burnout
Cutting out frenemies and building real boundaries (plus her checklist that went viral)

Episode Links:
Related Episode: How to Start Angel Investing with Jaclyn Johnson https://open.spotify.com/episode/664zbiSkUF9AGIyigNt6Yg?si=iUN_FVZFQ8uNplFY58MD6Q
Follow Marina on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marinaamiddleton/
Follow Create & Cultivate on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/createcultivate/
Check out the Create & Cultivate Festival in LA on September 19 and 20: https://www.createcultivate.com/festival

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Connect with Les:
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#362: Stephany Faublas built her platform on radical honesty, and she’s bringing her signature candor to this week’s conversation.
Stephany joins me to talk about what raising herself looks like right now, in the season after the court wins, after the healing, after she stopped performing being "okay" and started taking the steps to shift from surviving to thriving. We get into the mom sabbatical she took this summer, the boundary that changed her life, and what creating her own luck looks like in real-time.
This episode is a masterclass in what it actually looks like to design your life instead of just surviving it.

What you'll take from this episode:
How to stop performing "okay" what it takes to truly get out of survival mode
A new way to think about the oxygen mask advice everyone gives but nobody actually follows
How to release the shame that comes with choosing yourself
Why you can’t process what you don’t let yourself feel
How to think about money as a tool for freedom, not just survival, and where to start if you don't have a plan yet
A reminder that your life is something you can design, and the first steps to doing so

Episode Links:
Follow Stephany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stehfuhnee_/
Follow Stephany on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stehfuhnee_?lang=en
Subscribe to Stephany’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvk7Yw5lbM7xwNG8QJeVtgA
Subscribe to the Afterbirth Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@afterbirthpodcast

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Connect with Les:
Ready to apply what you hear? Subscribe to the She’s So Lucky Newsletter to get weekly episode guides and journal prompts: https://shessolucky.kit.com/newsletter
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#361: Tareasa “ReesaTeesa” Johnson went viral in February 2024 with "Who the F Did I Marry?", the 50-part TikTok series that ended up in front of half a billion people. This week she's back with something different: her memoir, "What TF Do I Do Now?" just dropped, and she’s bringing us even deeper into her story.
We also get into the parts nobody wants to admit out loud: what she calls the viral tax, the real cost hiding behind every brand deal and TV offer, and the loneliness that shows up even when your name is a hashtag half the world knows. She's honest about the fact that alone and lonely aren't the same thing, but they've overlapped for her more than she wanted to say in the book.
This episode is for you if...
You're learning how to trust your gut
You're curious what actually happens financially and mentally after a story goes viral
You need the reframe from "what if I'm wrong" to "what if I'm right" in your own life right now
You're doing the quiet work of forgiving yourself
You want to hear how someone rebuilds trust with her own intuition after ignoring it

Episode Links:
Get your copy of What TF Do I Do Now, by Tereasa “ReesaTeesa” Johnson: https://bookshop.org/a/55347/9798217088607
Follow Reesa on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@reesamteesa?lang=en
Follow Reesa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reesateesa/

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Connect with Les:
Ready to apply what you hear? Subscribe to the She’s So Lucky Newsletter to get weekly episode guides and journal prompts: https://shessolucky.kit.com/newsletter
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