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Healing Betrayal Trauma: EMDR, IFS & the Real Reasons People Cheat

Infidelity doesn’t happen in a vacuum. And healing after betrayal isn’t just about “getting over it” or learning to trust again.

In this deeply compassionate and eye-opening conversation, Lora sits down with marriage and sex therapist Todd Creager to explore the real roots of infidelity, betrayal trauma, emotional safety, and lasting healing. Together, they unpack how childhood wounds, attachment injuries, shame, hypervigilance, and nervous system survival patterns shape both betrayal and recovery.

You’ll also learn how EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help both betrayed partners and betrayers process trauma safely, understand their protective patterns, and move toward genuine healing and connection.

This episode is not about excusing betrayal. It’s about understanding it deeply enough to heal.

Whether you stay or leave, this conversation will help you stop personalizing the betrayal, understand your own patterns more compassionately, and move toward clarity, safety, and self-trust.

Top 3 Takeaways

Infidelity is often connected to unresolved trauma, attachment wounds, and protective survival patterns that began long before the relationship.

EMDR and Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help both partners process betrayal trauma, regulate the nervous system, and heal emotional wounds safely.

Healing after infidelity isn’t about rushing back into trust — it’s about rebuilding emotional safety, understanding protective patterns, and creating real change over time.

Favorite Quotes

“You don’t just cheat. It doesn’t happen in a vacuum.”

“Life is generous. It helps us wake up to the parts of ourselves we didn’t know how to love before.”

“Healing is not about forcing trust. It’s about becoming safe again.”

What You’ll Learn:

Why people cheat
• Betrayal trauma and nervous system healing
• How EMDR works after infidelity
• What Internal Family Systems (IFS) actually means
• Why hypervigilance after betrayal is normal
• Childhood trauma and adult relationships
• Why betrayed partners stay
• Rebuilding trust safely
• Emotional safety after infidelity
• Processing trauma without retraumatizing yourself
• The difference between understanding behavior and excusing it
• Why healing takes time — even in healthy reconciliation

About Todd

Todd Creager is an experienced relationship therapist and sex expert specializing in couples counseling, marriage and intimacy.  From healing from trauma through EMDR therapy, to overcoming infidelity Todd has helped countless couples overcome the issues that they face – increasing their connection and communication.  Todd provides a variety of services and methods – from routine relationship therapy sessions to couples retreats and counseling relating to sex addiction and toxic relationships.  It’s important to find working solutions for each individual couple.

Located in Huntington Beach, Todd provides therapy to the Orange County areas of Newport Coast, Irvine, Corona del Mar, Seal Beach, Long Beach and beyond!

Todd is also an expert keynote speaker for topics including team-building, relationships, sex and more.

If you’re looking to book a speaking appearance in Orange County, the Los Angeles area or beyond, contact Todd today! https://toddcreager.com/

Check out Todd’s podcast, Let’s Talk About Love, Sex, & Infidelity, where Lora was a recent guest: https://open.spotify.com/episode/20TivMIVQD698pp18eiyHr?si=ZtQ_u1kUT8-nuUmMu4CVNg

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If you’re ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let’s talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. 

Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again.

About Lora:

Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal.

After uncovering her husband’s 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy.

A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery.

She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session

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Gaea Star Crystal Radio Hour #668 is an hour of inspired, dynamic visionary acoustic improvised music played live by The Gaea Star Band with Mariam Massaro on vocals, Crystal bowl, Native flute and double flutes, acoustic guitar, Celtic harp, harmonica, shruti box, mandolin and ukulele, Bob Sherwood on piano and bass guitar and Craig Harris on Native drum and congas. Recorded live at Singing Brook Studio in Worthington, Massachusetts in early May of 2026, today’s show begins with the bucolic, deeply relaxed folk-gospel ballad “As The Shadow Falls Away”, a gorgeous, unhurried piece built on the Eb drone of Mariam’s crystal bowl. “Merry Month Of May” is a country blues with a fine vocal from Mariam and barrel house piano from Bob and “In The Dark Of The Night” is a varied, dynamic piece with fine work from the whole ensemble supporting Mariam’s rich vocal and Native flute conversation. “Reclaim Our Essence” is a gorgeous ballad featuring a powerful steady drone from Mariam’s shruti box and imaginative, emotional piano from Bob. “So Deep Within/Happy Birthday” is a minimalist blues built on Craig’s steady congas and Bob’s funky, blues-based bass guitar with a rocking duet between Mariam’s fine vocal and Bb harmonica. “Mandia Viahey” is a beautifully presented ballad about a solitary moose with silken acoustic guitar and heartbeat congas and today’s show ends with a fine, energized version of Mariam’s “Spirit Of The Forest” from her “Release” LP built on her deep forest mandolin and featuring another fine, soaring vocal.

Learn more about Mariam here: http://www.mariammassaro.com

Lifestyle Medicine & Breast Cancer: Prevention, Treatment Support & Recovery

What actually impacts cancer risk—and what helps you get through it? This episode blends expert insight and lived experience to reveal how lifestyle medicine supports prevention, treatment, and healing.

In this episode of Her Health Compass, we explore what it truly means to heal through the lenses of resilience, grief, and lifestyle medicine. Yonni and Heather are joined by Dr. Amy Comander, a breast cancer specialist trained in lifestyle medicine, and Britt Aronson, who shares her powerful firsthand experience navigating cancer alongside profound personal loss. Together, they unpack how nutrition, movement, sleep, stress, and mindset can influence not only cancer prevention, but also treatment outcomes and recovery. This conversation bridges science and story—offering both evidence-based insight and lived experience for anyone seeking to better understand their body, their health, and their capacity to heal.

Amy Comander, MD, DipABLM, FACLM, MSCP is a breast oncologist and Medical Director of the Mass General Brigham Cancer Institute in Waltham, Director of the Lifestyle Medicine Program at the Mass General Brigham Cancer Institute, and an instructor in medicine at Harvard Medical School.

Dr. Comander developed a passion for understanding the biological basis of behavior, and she studied neurobiology and psychology as part of the multidisciplinary Mind, Brain, and Behavior Initiative at Harvard University. She then received her Doctor of Medicine from the Yale University School of Medicine. She completed her internal medicine residency training and Hematology-Oncology fellowship training at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center and Harvard Medical School. She is board-certified in internal medicine, hematology, medical oncology, and Lifestyle Medicine.

As a breast oncologist, Dr. Comander has witnessed the struggles her patients face during and following completion of primary cancer treatment, and is passionate about improving the overall health and well-being of breast cancer survivors through lifestyle interventions.  In collaboration with Dr. Frates, she launched the PAVING the Path to Wellness Program lifestyle medicine program for breast cancer survivors. She trains other colleagues to run PAVING groups, so that this transformational experience can be offered to a larger group of  cancer survivors.   She has co-authored PAVING Your Path Through Breast Cancer and Beyond,  PAVING the Path to Wellness Manual and Workbook, and PAVING a Path Through Menopause and Beyond.

Dr. Comander practices what she preaches, having run marathons, including 12 consecutive Boston Marathons to date, with the goal to improve the lives of those with a diagnosis of cancer.   Dr. Comander was honored to serve as the first oncologist on the Board of Directors of the American College of Lifestyle Medicine. She is proud to serve as Vice President on the Board of the PAVING the Path to Wellness non-profit organization.  She also serves on the Board of the Ellie Fund, a non-profit that provides services and support to women diagnosed with breast cancer in Massachusetts. She is a medical advisor to the non-profit organizations, SurvivingBreastCancer.org and the Tigerlily Foundation.   She has served as a medical advisor to Oneinforty, a non-profit organization dedicated to educating people of Ashkenazi Jewish heritage about the one-in-forty chance of having inherited a BRCA mutation.  

Britt Aaronson is a freelance writer and editor based in Los Angeles, where she has lived since 1993. She finds great joy in being a mother to Rayce and Eisley. In her free time, she enjoys yoga, hiking, traveling, and supporting nonprofits including the National Brain Tumor Society, the Hidden Hills Theater Committee, and the Fondle Project. In February 2020, she was diagnosed with Grade 2–3 DCIS breast cancer. Britt underwent seven surgeries—including a double mastectomy, reconstruction, and capsulectomies—and is grateful to now be cancer-free. Deeply appreciative of the technology that led to her diagnosis, she is dedicated to raising awareness and helping redefine conversations around breast health, survivorship, and healing.

Find Yonni & Heather here https://www.herhealthcompass.com/

Storytelling Strategies that Foster Connection with Sarah Elkins

SHOW SUMMARY: What if your stories don’t define you… but the way you tell them will?

This week on Look for the Good, airing Monday, May 11, 2026, I’m diving into one of my favorite topics—stories—with storytelling and public speaking coach Sarah Elkins—whose powerful TEDx talk is helping people rethink how we share and listen to personal stories in order to find more common ground and build connection to each other one story at a time. And trust me, this conversation goes way deeper than you think. 

Because here’s the truth:
It’s not just what happened to you… it’s how you’ve been telling it—on repeat—that’s shaping your life right now.

Sarah has an incredible ability to understand people quickly and deeply—often picking up on patterns others miss. Using a blend of intuition and a powerful personal discovery tool, she helps uncover strengths and insights with striking accuracy. And yes… there’s a wild story involving Edgar Allan Poe’s birthday that will have you looking at intuition—and maybe even your next business meeting—a little differently.

In this episode, we get into:

The hidden stories running the show behind the scenes

How to spot your actual superpowers (not the ones you think you “should” have)

Why your storytelling style might be the thing keeping you stuck

And the moment Sarah said yes to go-go boots and joined a surf band at 40

This episode might make you laugh, raise an eyebrow, and then stop you in your tracks with one big question:

Is the story you’re telling working for you… or against you?

So go ahead—strap on your go-go boots and come hang with us.

Because your next chapter? It starts with how you tell it. Tune in Monday at 5am & 5pm EST: https://dreamvisions7radio.com/look-for-the-good/

BIO:"We got immediate positive feedback and there was a buzz in the room from the lightbulbs going off in people’s heads."

"Inspirational, entertaining, passionate…Sarah Elkins is a world-class presenter!”

"Our members are raving! Her insight, expertise and engaging style got us thinking in new ways. Would recommend her highly and hope to have her back.”

Sarah Elkins is a Montana based workplace communication trainer, keynote speaker, TEDx and DisruptHR speaker, professional storyteller, musician, and podcast host. Her workshops and coaching packages with teams and their leaders are known to address and reduce miscommunication – the most common cause of tension and stress in the workplace. Sarah is a Gallup-certified StrengthsFinder coach and uses that assessment to guide teams in learning to value each other’s strengths and connecting with each other through enhanced self-reflection and effective listening. Sarah’s clients stick with her year after year, benefitting from her integration and practical application of the StrengthsFinder assessment into everyday communication.

WATCH SARAH'S TEDx TALK HERE: www.elkinsconsulting.com/speaker

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Learn More about Carrie here: https://carrierowan.com/

Mental Health, Compassion & Connection with Tamara L. Hunter

On this episode of the Make Mental Health Matter Show, host Kelli Melissa Reinhardt has special guest Tamara L. Hunter.

Join us for an important and heartfelt conversation during Mental Health Awareness Month as we discuss the realities of mental health, its impact on individuals and families, and why connection, compassion, and open conversation matter more than ever. In this episode, Tamara L. Hunter shares personal insight from her own life experiences, including supporting loved ones through mental health challenges. She also discusses the importance of removing shame, creating understanding, and helping people feel seen, heard, and supported. Together, we will explore healing through connection, the power of community, and why mental health is health - because no one should have to walk through life’s challenges alone. 

Short bio:

Tamara L. Hunter is a humanitarian, TV host, speaker, and Co-Founder of CB4L.org(Chemo Buddies 4Life), a global support community centered on healing through connection. She is the creator and Executive Producer of the Let’s Talk Fabulous Show on e360tv and the founder of Impactor Music Productions. Known as “The First Global Next Impactor,” Tamara is passionate about creating positive change through compassion, conversation, and community. A cancer survivor and advocate, she uses television, music, speaking, and outreach to help people feel seen, heard, supported, and inspired. Her mission focuses on healing through connection and making a meaningful difference in the lives of others. 

 

Find out more Tamara about here:

Website: https://tamaralhunter.com/

https://cb4l.org/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LetsTalkFabulousShow/videos

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tamara.hunter.5059/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamaralhunter

 

Find out more about Make Mental Health Matter here:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MakeMentalHealthMatter/videos

Website: https://www.mmhm.org 

 

Kelli’s links:
www.mmhm.org/show
Facebook.com/kellimelissareinhardt
Instagram.com/kellimelissareinhardt
linkedin.com/in/kellimelissareinhardt
tiktok.com/@warriorformentalhealth

 

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