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Betrayal Trauma Isn’t What You Think—Why the Noise After Infidelity Keeps You Stuck

If you’ve ever wondered why betrayal still affects you—even after you’ve “done the work”—this episode names the real reason.

Betrayal trauma isn’t just the affair. It’s what happens after: the opinions, judgments, bad advice, cultural myths, and even misapplied therapy that flood in when your nervous system is already in shock. That noise keeps you doubting yourself, second-guessing your choices, and feeling stuck—no matter how smart or self-aware you are.

In this episode, Lora Cheadle breaks down the noise after betrayal and explains why clarity—not pressure, forgiveness, or forced decisions—is what actually heals. You’ll learn how staying after infidelity is often misunderstood, why cheating is rarely about “having your cake and eating it too,” and how even well-meaning professionals can unintentionally re-traumatize you.

This is a grounded, trauma-aware conversation for anyone who feels exhausted by everyone else’s opinions and just wants to hear their own truth again.

Top 3 Takeaways

Betrayal trauma intensifies after discovery—not just during the affair.
The real damage often comes from the aftermath: judgment, pressure, and narratives that were never built with trauma in mind.

Staying after infidelity is not weakness—and it’s not letting anyone “get away with it.”
Staying can be the harder path, requiring accountability, deep personal work, and nervous-system healing on both sides.

Misapplied therapy and self-help can create secondary betrayal.
Rushed repair, forced forgiveness, and minimization of trauma often increase confusion instead of clarity.

Favorite Quote

“Healing begins with clarity. Clarity begins when the noise stops.”

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If you’re ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let’s talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. 

Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again.

About Lora:

Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal.

After uncovering her husband’s 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy.

A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery.

She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session

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Gaea Star Crystal Radio Hour #656 is a live show featuring dynamic, improvised visionary acoustic music by The Gaea Star Band with Mariam Massaro on vocals, Native flute, Celtic harp, 12- and 6-string acoustic guitars, ukulele, Tibetan bowls and shruti box, Bob Sherwood on piano, Craig Harris on congas and Native drum and today’s special guest Robin Rooney on vocals and percussion. Recorded at Singing Brook Studio in Worthington, Massachusetts in early February of 2026, today’s hour begins with the mystical raga to the Goddess Brigid, a mysterious, shaded piece built on Mariam’s chiming drone on her open-tuned Martin 12-string acoustic and a tight, focused piano strategy from Bob. “Honoring Hathor” is another raga based on open 12-string, featuring soaring call-and-response vocals from Mariam and Robin and “If You Knew What Was In Your Heart” opens with a beautiful flute fanfare from Mariam before settling into an affecting prayer-like, minimalist meditation. “Yemanja” is a song by Mariam about the Ocean Goddess and the ensemble covers a skillful, tight and varied version with dancing ukulele from Mariam, barrelhouse funk piano from Bob, a driving conga rhythm from Craig and more powerful vocals from Mariam and Robin. “Full Moon Part II” is a deep cut that originates in 2013, an unusual, lunar piece of music that drifts in and out of dreamy night moods and Miriam’s “Your Eyes Shine” receives a gorgeous, languid reading with fine work from the ensemble and a tight, passionate vocal from Mariam. We close the show today with two of Mariam’s finest South American songs, the mysterious, slowly building “Amour Mac hay” and the joyful, playful Andean nature prayer “Pachamama”.

Learn more about Mariam here: http://www.mariammassaro.com

Sheryl Glick host of Healing From Within interviews Doug “Ten” Rose, also known as “Ten” which is short for Tenzin Kharma Trinley. Sheryl and Doug will discover how he came to that name, “Ten” in his book Fearless Puppy On American Road. Ten is also the author of Reincarnation Through Common Sense where he describes how the rural monks and nuns of a forest temple adopted a troubled soul from Brooklyn, New York.Ten will discuss the hitchhiking adventures that he experienced while covering America’s highway’s. He has survived heroin addiction and death and is a graduate of over a hundred thousand miles of travel without ever driving a car, owning a phone or having a bank account. When we say to find Spirit we need to walk the road of our own destiny and true path this seems to fit Ten ideally. http://www.fearlesspuppy.org/

Learn more about Sheryl here: http://www.sherylglick.com/

Sweet Dreams & the Elusive Nature of Sleep: How a Good Night’s Rest Benefits Physical and Mental Health 

If you’re like us and have ever stared at the ceiling at 2 a.m. begging your body to go back to sleep,  this episode is for you. We’re joined by Rachel Baumel, founder and CEO of Sleep Again Pillows, and author, songwriter and podcast host, Carrie Rowan, to unpack the elusive nature of sleep and why quality rest is one of the most powerful tools we have for physical and mental well-being. Sweet dreams aren’t just a luxury—they’re a necessity.

Carrie Rowan, dubbed by her clients as the Professor of Happiness & Joy, is a transformational edutainer/speaker, a mindset strategist, award-winning singer/songwriter, and best-selling author. Blending the art of music with neuroscience, she inspires audiences to transcend limiting narratives and embrace joy as life’s new anthem. Radio Show/Podcast Host of Look for the Good, with over 300k listeners, Carrie’s work has been featured on CBS and NBC. After a decade-long corporate career, she now shines as a beacon of empowerment and joy in the personal development world.

Rachel Baumel was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2017 and underwent four surgeries for breast cancer and ovary removal the next year.

Following her double mastectomy, she created a pillow system to make herself more comfortable while sleeping on her back. She had to find pillows and put them together to make a comfy and cozy cocoon. Her husband called it the "life raft.”

After lending her pillow system out to other women following their surgeries, she saw how others could benefit.  She and Kate Devlin founded Sleep Again Pillows in 2020 and have now helped thousands of people sleep and heal following surgery.  

Find Yonni & Heather here https://www.herhealthcompass.com/

Smoke Signals: The Unity of One Heart and One Mind

In this episode of Living on Purpose, Carolyn explores how our lives function as signals in a shared world, and what it means to live with one heart and one mind, individually and collectively.

Building on the previous episode, North Shield: Embracing Wisdom and Gratitude, and teachings from the Native American Path Cards by Jamie Sams, Carolyn reflects on presence as the first form of communication. Drawing from lived experience, caregiving, loss, recovery, and life at Charlie's Place Healing Sanctuary, she explores how our inner life inevitably shapes the field around us, and how responsibility can be understood as relationship rather than pressure.

The episode then turns to the teaching of one heart and one mind, inspired by a prayer of White Buffalo Calf Woman. Carolyn speaks to the exhaustion many feel today, not from effort alone, but from inner division, and offers a compassionate reframing of unity as integrity, coherence, and honest presence, even amid fear, hope, and change.

In the final segment, Carolyn gathers the teachings into practice, reminding listeners that coherence is something we return to again and again through small, honest choices. She shares ways to continue this work through one-on-one offerings available at stan.store/carolynromano, by following Charlie’s Place Healing Sanctuary on Facebook, and through learning and practice with Tending the Sacred at tendingthesacred.org. She also previews Threshold Medicine: Ritual, Writing and Renewal, a Spring Equinox women’s retreat co-facilitated with Judy Tsafrir.

The episode closes with a reminder that when heart and mind move together, our lives become a form of communication, and the signal we send is one of belonging.

Find Carolyn here: https://stan.store/carolynromano