Why He Can’t Stop: The Truth About Porn Addiction, Cheating & Compulsive Behavior in Relationships
You keep asking the same question:
Why does he keep doing this—even when he knows it hurts me?
In this eye-opening episode, Lora sits down with former Buddhist monk and addiction expert Jeremy Lipkowitz to unpack the real reasons behind compulsive behaviors like porn use, cheating, and addiction.
This conversation goes far beyond surface-level answers. Together, they explore how addictive behaviors form, why they aren’t about you, and what true recovery actually requires.
If you’ve ever felt confused, hurt, or stuck trying to understand your partner’s behavior—this episode will bring clarity, validation, and a new way forward.
Top 3 Takeaways
It’s not about you—it’s a coping mechanism.
Most addictive behaviors begin early and are rooted in emotional regulation, not love, attraction, or relationship satisfaction.
Addiction is about pain, not pleasure.
The real question isn’t “Why the addiction?”—it’s “What pain is being avoided?” Healing requires addressing the root, not just stopping the behavior.
You can’t shame someone into change—but you can create awareness.
True transformation happens through self-awareness, accountability, and building a life that no longer needs escape.
Pull Quotes
"Addiction isn’t about wanting more pleasure—it’s about trying to escape a life that doesn’t feel good.”
About Jeremy
Jeremy Lipkowitz is a former Buddhist monk, meditation teacher, and ICF-certified executive coach who helps high-achieving men break free from compulsive behaviors—especially porn addiction—and build lives of integrity, discipline, and deep fulfillment. With over 13 years of meditation experience and hundreds of days spent in silent retreat, Jeremy blends ancient wisdom with cutting-edge science to guide individuals toward emotional resilience and personal freedom.
A former genetic researcher who earned Bachelor’s and Master’s degrees in Genetics & Genomics and pursued a PhD at Duke University, Jeremy left academia after confronting his own struggles with addiction, shame, and self-judgment. A brief period of monastic training in Myanmar deepened his mindfulness practice and marked the start of a lifelong commitment to personal growth and service.
As the founder of Unhooked Academy and host of the Unhooked Podcast, Jeremy is a leading voice in destigmatizing porn addiction and educating the public on effective, science-based recovery strategies. His work helps men overcome shame, understand the neuroscience of addiction, and create lasting transformation through mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and habit change.
For over a decade, Jeremy has taught at universities, recovery centers, and global companies across the U.S. and Asia. His calm, grounded presence and ability to bridge analytical thinking with inner work make him a sought-after guide for professionals and executives looking to reclaim their lives from digital distractions and self-sabotaging patterns.
Credentials & Training:
CPCC, Co-Active Training Institute
ACC, International Coaching Federation (ICF)
Certified Teacher, Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute (SIYLI – developed at Google)
The Turning Point
After years of outward success—academic achievements, career accomplishments, and global recognition—I still felt a deep sense of emptiness and disconnection. Behind the polished exterior, I was battling a compulsive porn habit, struggling with shame, and silently wondering what was wrong with me.
Eventually, I hit a breaking point. I left my PhD program, became a Buddhist monk, and began a deep inner journey of healing and transformation.
Now, as a mindfulness-based executive coach and founder of Unhooked Academy, I help high-achieving men reclaim their focus, integrity, and sense of self. Together, we replace shame with clarity, and compulsive behaviors with purpose-driven action.
Learn More at www.UnhookedAcademy.com
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About Lora:
Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal.
After uncovering her husband’s 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy.
A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery.
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