Why Did This Happen to Me? A Radical New Way to Understand Betrayal, Trauma & Life’s Hardest Moments
Why did this happen to me?
If you’ve ever asked that question after betrayal, infidelity, or a life-altering experience… this conversation may completely shift how you see your story.
In this deeply thought-provoking episode, I sit down with Rob Schwartz, author of Your Soul’s Plan, to explore the concept of pre-birth planning—the idea that we may choose our biggest life challenges before we’re even born.
Yes… even betrayal.
Before you dismiss this as “too out there,” stay with us.
Because whether you take this literally or metaphorically, this conversation opens the door to something every woman healing from betrayal needs:
Meaning
perspective
and the possibility of peace
We explore what it means to view betrayal not as punishment—but as part of a larger soul journey… without bypassing the very real pain and trauma that comes with it.
If you’ve ever wondered:
Why did he cheat?
Why did this happen to me?
Is there any deeper meaning in this pain?
How do I stop feeling like a victim of my life?
This episode will stretch your thinking in the most powerful way.
And most importantly—it will invite you back into your own power.
Top 3 Takeaways
What if your hardest experiences weren’t random—but chosen for growth?
The concept of pre-birth planning offers a radically different lens on betrayal, trauma, and life’s biggest challenges.
Understanding meaning doesn’t replace healing—it deepens it.
This is NOT about bypassing pain. True healing still requires emotional, somatic, and psychological work.
You are not a victim of your life—you are a participant in your evolution.
Shifting from “Why me?” to “What is this here to teach me?” can unlock profound clarity, forgiveness, and self-trust.
Favorite Quote
“What if the question isn’t ‘Why did this happen to me?’—but ‘What is this here to awaken in me?’”
About Rob Schwartz
Bio: Rob Schwartz is a hypnotist who offers Between Lives Soul Regressions (BLSRs) to help people heal and understand their life plans. In a BLSR you can speak directly with your Council of Elders, the wise, loving, and highly evolved beings who can tell you what you planned for your current lifetime and why, how well you're fulfilling your plan, and how you may better fulfill your plan.
Rob's first book, Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born, explores the pre-birth planning of physical illness, having disabled children, deafness, blindness, drug addiction, alcoholism, the death of a loved one, and accidents. His second book, Your Soul's Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born, explores the pre-birth planning of spiritual awakening, miscarriage, abortion, suicide, caregiving, sexuality, adoption, having pets, poverty, mental illness, and other life challenges and experiences. His third book Your Soul's Love: Living the Love You Planned Before You Were Born is about the pre-birth planning of challenges related to romantic relationships or their absence: infidelity; impotence; interdimensional parenting (raising children seemingly alone after the death of one's partner); being single; and celibate relationships.
Rob's books have been translated into 28 languages. He teaches internationally on the subject of pre-birth planning at such venues as The United Nations, Kripalu, 1440 Multiversity, Hollyhock, and online through The Shift Network. For more information visit Rob online at www.yoursoulsplan.com or write to him directly at
[email protected].
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If you’re ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let’s talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways.
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About Lora:
Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal.
After uncovering her husband’s 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy.
A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery.
She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
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