Brown Girl Self-Care

I'm back behind the mic and dropping some real talk about what happens when life forces you to wake up from autopilot. This week, I’m sharing the raw reality of working a labor-intensive retail job at 50, dealing with the daily grind of pushing carts, and how a repetitive question from an older gentleman in the store literally stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to look at how I'm navigating my life.
Spoiler alert: You have permission to take control of your own damn life.
True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your circumstances are perfect to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in a hard season, looking at your life, and choosing your power anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to stop living on autopilot and step into the driver's seat of your own liberation.
What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:
The Retail Reality Check: The logistics of being back in the retail trenches in decade number five, the physical toll of pushing carts, and navigating a season that feels heavy and labor-intensive.
The Pusher vs. The Driver: The exact moment a daily question from a retail customer bypassed my ears and hit my understanding, sparking a deep revelation about survival mode vs. conscious sovereignty.
The Anatomy of Autopilot: Breaking down how trauma, people-pleasing, and public validation trick us into letting life just "happen" to us, instead of mapping out our own master blueprint.
The Power of Stillness: Why reclaiming your life requires getting quiet, turning off the noise and distractions, and allowing what’s beneath the surface to bubble up so you can figure out what you actually want.
Getting Sick of Your Own Sh*t: A real-talk reality check on how we get comfortable in our excuses, make them our identity, and why hitting a wall with your own patterns is often the exact catalyst needed for true healing.
The Reclaiming of Your Power: Why you have a right to hold the map, choose your destination, change your mind, and fully embrace every single gift and talent inside of you before you leave this earth.

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After an extended hiatus, I'm back behind the mic!! I’m sharing the raw reality of navigating a major life transition at 50, dealing with the structural games of the "outside world," and wrestling with the deeply colonized fear that unless you are young, trendy, and constantly producing, your voice doesn't matter.
Spoiler alert: It does matter.
True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your life is perfectly wrapped in a bow to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in your "unknown" and choosing your purpose anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to practice liberation in real-time, right from the trenches.
What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:
The Reality of the Hiatus: Why I went silent for two months, and the vulnerability of questioning my validity in a digital age obsessed with youth and algorithms.
"Outside is Still Ghetto": The logistics of taking a retail job for stability, navigating spaces that treat you like a number, and the sovereign act of collecting a paycheck without giving away your soul.
The Universal Struggle for Meaning: Why checking external boxes will never fill an internal void, and how to find your anchor when your surroundings feel sparse or uncertain.
The Reclaiming at 50: Why my mission to provide a space of encouragement and liberation for Black women doesn't pause just because I'm figuring out my own next steps.

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Let's talk a little about when you are in a season that requires you to un-labor a bit and stop grinding. I believe that Black women deserve more ease and to receive income and abundance with ease, myself included, so there will be times that we are required to un-labor and allow God to step in and provide miracles. This is counterintuitive to the lessons we learned that told us that in order to be successful, wealthy, even safe, we must labor in all ways and all the time. Hit "play" on this episode and lt's unpack things a little bit.

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Valentine's Day was just a few days ago, but today we’re talking about the side of love we rarely discuss: the grace of letting go. Inspired by a surprising lesson from Mr. Rogers, this episode explores why we often keep pouring our "salt"—our energy, labor, and essence—into relationships that are no longer viable.
Let's talk about the "Fixer" trap, the difference between a rough patch and a dead one, and how to reclaim your sweetness by choosing to stop performing CPR on a "dead fish".
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Late in 2025 one of my distractions, one that I wasn't aware of for a while, was fear. I was afraid that If I didn't earn income or receive it in a certain way, I wasn't doing things "right." This ended up putting me into a bit of freeze mode and if you've ever experienced freeze mode you know how much that feels like being stuck in time.
In todays episode, let's talk a bit about distractions and how they might show up in your life and put a halt on living the life you deserve.

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