The PedsDocTalk Podcast: Child Health, Development & Parenting—From a Pediatrician Mom

Practical optimism is not about pretending everything is fine or forcing happy thoughts when life feels hard. In this Follow-Up episode, I revisit my conversation with Dr. Sue Varma, psychiatrist, cognitive behavioral therapist, and author of Practical Optimism, to break down what it really means to build a hopeful mindset that is grounded in action, not denial. We talk about how optimism differs from toxic positivity, why some people seem to move through hard things with more resilience, and how this way of thinking can be practiced, even if it does not come naturally.

In this episode, we cover:


What practical optimism actually is


How it differs from toxic positivity and pessimism


Whether optimism is something you are born with or something you can practice


The eight pillars of practical optimism


The three Ps of pessimism and how to spot them


Why purpose, self-compassion, and emotional regulation matter


How optimism can support mental health, relationships, and parenting


Ways to start shifting your mindset in everyday life

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Parents often want to talk to their kids about puberty and periods, but many don’t know where to start. In this episode, I’m joined by pediatric and adolescent gynecologist Dr. Charis Chambers to talk about how we can change the way families approach these conversations. From stigma and misinformation to the fear of saying the wrong thing, we break down why avoiding these discussions can leave kids confused, scared, or learning from the wrong sources.

We discuss how to introduce puberty and body changes in age-appropriate ways, why boys should be included in these conversations, and how parents can shift from one awkward “talk” to an ongoing dialog that builds trust. Dr. Chambers also explains the science behind periods, addresses common misconceptions about hormonal therapy, and shares powerful stories from her clinical experience that highlight why this education matters for a child’s long-term relationship with their body and health.

In this episode we discuss:

✔️ Why many kids feel scared when their first period starts

✔️ How to start puberty conversations earlier and more naturally

✔️ Why boys should learn about periods too

✔️ The difference between privacy and secrecy when talking about bodies ✔️ How stigma around periods gets passed down through generations

✔️ Why hormonal therapy is often misunderstood

✔️ How open conversations build trust between parents and kids

To connect with Dr. Charis Chambers follow her on Instagram @theperioddoctor, check out all her resources at https://theperioddoctor.com and buy her new book: https://www.amazon.com/Period-Puberty-Parenting-Revolution-Conversation/dp/1464233802?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGn1W3WTCmZ7O5OBTdANGfFNf3Qt3tBhR3ysalxz3dPwNe50CLKDpwfK9vbRiY_aem_POnDC67y5COyXEaA3xsKVQ 

00:00 Why Puberty and Period Talks Matter
02:16 Meet Dr. Charis Chambers and Her New Book
04:01 Why She Wrote The Puberty and Period Parenting Revolution
06:17 Why Kids Need to Learn About Bodies From Parents First
08:42 Is There Such a Thing as Talking Too Early About Puberty?
10:54 Why Boys Need to Be Part of Period Conversations Too
12:35 Privacy vs Secrecy, How Parents Can Normalize Periods
14:00 How Media and Shame Shape Period Stigma
18:40 Why This Needs to Be an Ongoing Conversation, Not One Talk
22:31 How to Explain Anatomy Without Making It Awkward
28:15 What Happens When Kids Are Left in the Dark About Periods
33:54 Hormonal Therapy vs Birth Control, What Parents Should Know
41:29 How to Build Trust When Parents Feel Nervous or Behind
45:05 What Dr. Charis Hopes This Book Changes for Families

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Many parents worry when their child seems shy. But is it actually shyness, or something more?

In this episode, we unpack the difference between a “slow to warm” temperament and an anxiety disorder. We talk about why labeling kids as shy can unintentionally limit them, how social expectations play a role, and what supportive parenting really looks like in those hesitant moments.

We discuss:

• What “slow to warm” actually means
• The key difference between temperament and anxiety
• Why the word shy can become a self-fulfilling label
• How to support kids in new or overwhelming situations
• The importance of preparation and gentle exposure
• When behavior differences across settings may signal anxiety
• Signs of selective mutism and more serious anxiety concerns
• Why evidence-based therapy should include parent involvement

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Motherhood is often painted as pure joy, endless patience, and unconditional love.

But what about the moments of frustration? The resentment? The overwhelm? The quiet thought of, “I love my child… but this is really hard.”

In this episode, I sit down with psychotherapist Dr. Margo Lowy to talk about maternal ambivalence – the completely normal experience of holding love and difficult emotions at the same time. We unpack the difference between ambivalence and indifference, why so many mothers feel guilt for being human, and how naming these emotions actually strengthens connection rather than weakens it.

If you’ve ever questioned yourself because motherhood didn’t feel magical 100 percent of the time, this conversation will feel like exhaling.

We discuss:

• What maternal ambivalence really means and why it’s misunderstood • Why loving your child and feeling frustrated can coexist • The myth of the “perfect, selfless mother” • How social media fuels unrealistic expectations • Why naming difficult emotions reduces shame • The power of community and choosing supportive voices • How humor and lightness protect us in hard seasons • Why responding instead of reacting changes everything • The importance of modeling emotional honesty for our children

To connect with Dr. Margo Lowy follow her on Instagram @drmargolowy, check out all her resources at https://drmargolowy.com/ and buy her books: https://drmargolowy.com/book/ 

00:00 – Intro: Why Difficult Feelings in Motherhood Matter

01:21 – Introducing Dr. Margo Lowy and Maternal Ambivalence

02:57 – What Maternal Ambivalence Actually Means

06:00 – Ambivalence vs Indifference: A Critical Difference

07:49 – The Myth of the Perfect, Selfless Mother

09:08 – Why Suppressing Difficult Emotions Backfires

11:01 – Letting Go of Perfection in Parenting

13:09 – The Moment You Realize Your Child Is Separate From You

17:08 – Do Fathers Experience Parenting Ambivalence Too?

19:03 – Why Parenting Plans Rarely Go as Expected

22:49 – The Power of Community and Support in Motherhood

29:11 – Social Media and the Pressure to Be the “Perfect Mom”

33:30 – How Accepting Imperfection Strengthens Parenting

43:16 – Naming Ambivalence and Finding Compassion for Yourself

49:22 – Final Takeaway: Why Naming Your Feelings Changes Everything

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A question I get often is: “How do I know if EMDR might be right for me?”

In this episode, we break down what EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) actually is, who it can help, and what a session really looks like.

Originally developed to treat PTSD, EMDR is now used to support people struggling with birth trauma, childhood experiences, anxiety, panic, phobias, depression, parenting triggers, and more. You do not need a formal diagnosis to benefit from it. Many parents come in simply feeling reactive, overwhelmed, or triggered in ways they do not fully understand.

We discuss:

• How trauma and intense experiences are stored in the brain
• Why certain parenting moments can feel disproportionately triggering
• What “reprocessing” actually means
• The science behind bilateral stimulation and REM sleep
• The phases of EMDR therapy
• What safety and preparation look like before starting
• What a session may involve, including eye movements, tapping, or tones
• Why EMDR is about healing, not retraumatizing

Want more? Listen to the full, original episode.

Our podcasts are also now on YouTube. If you prefer a video podcast with closed captioning, check us out there and ⁠subscribe to PedsDocTalk⁠.

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