The Twenties Detox

Autumn isn’t asking us to stop, it’s asking us to listen. Turn inward, and reflect.

In this episode, I’m sharing two of the biggest lessons autumn can teach us about living with more intention, softness, and sustainable growth.
First, we’ll explore the balance between doing and being. Just like some trees have already turned vibrant and are ready to let go, while others still have a little more growing to do, not every goal in our lives needs to be at the same stage. We’ll talk about celebrating what has reached maturity, releasing what is complete, and continuing to tend to the things that still feel aligned...without falling into the cycle of hustle, burnout, and starting over.

Then, we’ll talk about making peace with your shadows. As the days become darker, autumn naturally invites us inward. Instead of being ashamed of the parts of ourselves we hide, resist, or wish away, we can begin to see them as protective parts that once helped keep us safe.

This is your reminder that slowing down does not mean falling behind. It can be the very thing that helps you return to yourself, build a stronger foundation, and enter your next season with more clarity and resilience. 🩵

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00:00 introduction
01:45 power of seasonal living
04:12 internal vs external seasons
06:20 autumn transition: between 'doing' and 'being'
06:20 autumn feels: cozy, warmth, slowing down
07:44 the balance between 'doing' and 'being'
09:15 slower seasons ALLOW for continuous growth.
12:34 darker evenings: illuminating shadows
13:42 why do we have shadows?
15:43 the interconnectedness of light and darkness
17:03 resistance to autumn & slower seasons
18:08 final thoughts, workbook + newsletter

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How to support me (so I can keep posting!):

1. Buy my a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thetwentiesdetox

2. Get my seasonal workbook: A 4-part workbook you can use every year to plan your goals in alignment with nature’s seasons. https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/align-with-the-seasons-guide

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The Twenties Detox Newsletter (free!!)
https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/newsletter

As the days get shorter and the shadows outside become a little more visible, autumn invites us to look inward, too.
There’s something about this season that naturally brings our own shadows to the surface: the parts of ourselves we might avoid, the mistakes we still carry, and the feeling that we should be further along than we are.
In this episode, we’re talking about the feeling of not being enough, learning to forgive ourselves for the things we wish we had done differently, and accepting ourselves for where we are right now, even when it isn’t where we ultimately want to be.
Because when we’re constantly living in the past or reaching toward the future, we miss the only place where we can actually create change: the present moment.
Think of this as your autumn reminder to slow down, meet yourself where you are, and make a little more peace with the person you’re becoming. 🩵

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in this episode:  

0:00 introduction
1:39 meet haku
2:03 a heavier theme of autumn...
4:29 these thoughts are not productive.
7:03 how to forgive ourselves (guilt vs shame)
9:56 how I forgave my reactivity
11:27 autumn season unlocks your shadows
13:12 how to accept ourselves for where we are right now
17:42 you're not giving yourself enough credit
20:08 recap
21:21 job market example
22:35 final thoughts, seasonal workbook and newsletter

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How to support me (so I can keep posting!):
1. Buy my a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thetwentiesdetox

2. Get my seasonal workbook: A 4-part workbook you can use every year to plan your goals in alignment with nature’s seasons. https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/align-with-the-seasons-guide

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More resources:
The Twenties Detox Newsletter (free!!)
https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/newsletter

Q4 is right around the corner. And in the corporate and business world, this tends to be one of the busiest times of the year.

End-of-year budgets, holiday sales and marketing campaigns, hitting annual targets, wrapping up projects, planning for the new year... there’s a lot happening.

But here’s the thing: we have a say in how we live, too.
That busy, “finish everything before the year ends” energy isn’t necessarily nature’s energy. It’s business energy. And if we’re not careful, we can start carrying that energy into our own lives, even when the season around us is asking us to do something completely different.

When we resist the slower energy of autumn, it can start to show up in ways like:
Feeling disconnected from your self-worth or self-love
Becoming insecure about how much (or how little) you’ve grown
Getting sick more often
Feeling exhausted, but still feeling like you can’t slow down
Constantly feeling like you need to be doing more before the year is over

As we lean into this new season, I’ll be guiding us through what autumn can actually teach us, what it means to embrace slower months, and how to honour that slower energy without sacrificing our success or ambitions.

But for now, let’s just take a moment.

Look at your vision board. What has come true? What still needs nurturing? What can you let go of?

And, perhaps most importantly, what should you avoid?(Hint: trying to force yourself into “lock in” mode when the season is asking you to slow down.)

And then there’s the bonus topic that somehow creeps up every year and has a way of pulling us out of enjoying the season altogether: preparing mentally and financially for the holidays.

Because yes, autumn is about slowing down. But that doesn’t mean we have to be caught off guard when December rolls around.

I hope you enjoyed this one.

Much love,
Bianca

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in this episode:  

0:00 introduction
1:02 my thoughts on the "autumn arc"
3:30 thinking about the bigger picture
5:32 Q4 corporate vs nature's energy
11:00 Review your vision board.
13:50 How seasonal living protects your 5-year plan
16:21 How to prepare for the holidays
17:50 financial tips for gift spending
20:04 gift ideas: keep your ears and eyes open!
21:03 Recap
23:31 final thoughts!

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How to support me (so I can keep posting!):

1. Buy my a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thetwentiesdetox

2. Get my seasonal workbook: A 4-part workbook you can use every year to plan your goals in alignment with nature’s seasons. https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/align-with-the-seasons-guide

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More resources:

The Twenties Detox Newsletter (free!!)
https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/newsletter

I've always been a very nostalgic person. I love decorating for the fall. Planning the traditions that I would do while the leaves start turning into beautiful golden colours. Making fall candles candy apples are an annual Thanksgiving pumpkin toss (whoever’s rolls the furthest, wins!). 

I'd also love to watch movies that would get me in the mood for the season all the 90s and early 2000s Disney Halloween movies, and I even have a fall playlist that I put on the second. It turns October 1st. 

It seems I'm not the only one that's constantly craving to feel like a kid again and each of those seasons. It can feel discouraging when no matter what it never reaches what it was like as a kid. But that doesn't mean we can't do things now to maximize every season that comes in a way that feels like you did as a kid and also with the flow of time meaning having the courage to try new things as well. 

p.s. I was feeling a little under the weather while recording this one so it's why it's a bit slower and softer. I hope you enjoy it. <3 

Bianca

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in this episode:  

0:00 introduction
1:08 nostalgia with new holidays and seasons
3:32 craving childhood memories
5:28 why time and memories feel different as kids
7:30 adults are on autopilot 
9:58 what it means to "feel like a kid again"
11:58 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique
13:22 try some new things this autumn!
14:17 comment some ideas (let's help each other out)
16:09 final thoughts + seasonal workbook

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How to support me (so I can keep posting!):

1. Buy my a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thetwentiesdetox

2. Get my seasonal workbook: A 4-part workbook you can use every year to plan your goals in alignment with nature’s seasons. https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/align-with-the-seasons-guide

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More resources:

The Twenties Detox Newsletter (free!!)
https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/newsletter

Friendships in your twenties can feel complicated.
People grow, paths change, and it can be hard to know which connections to nurture, redefine, or release.
In this episode, I share the friendship analogy that helped me stop expecting every friendship to hold the same depth: the onion layers.
We talk about the value of curiosity, giving people room to change, investing in your core community, and becoming your own best friend along the way.
Your friendships do not all need to look the same to be meaningful. 🩵
p.s. thanks for being patient with this episode! I couldn’t get it up yesterday because of some technical issues.
xo, 

Bianca
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In this episode:0:00 introduction + newsletter
1:57 why friendships are so hard in your twenties
5:11 the onion layers friendship analogy
7:18 the art of genuine curiosity
10:28 becoming your own best friend
12:06 the art of improv in friendship
14:22 how to build new friends in adulthood
18:38 final thoughts + get the seasonal workbook!
========================how to support me (so I can keep posting!)…1. Buy my a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thetwentiesdetox
2. Get my seasonal workbook: A 4-part workbook you can use every year to plan your goals in alignment with nature’s seasons. https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/align-with-the-seasons-guide========================more resources…The Twenties Detox Newsletter (free!!)
https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/newsletter

Next episode: Why you might lose friends on your personal growth journey https://open.spotify.com/episode/1r1phem8eLmL4hfRF3WHYT?si=9a22f40a833c4604