Coaching for Leaders

Nir Eyal: Beyond Belief

Nir Eyal writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, technology, and business. He is the author of two bestselling books, Hooked and Indistractable, selling more than a million copies and translated in over 30 languages. He is the author of the new book, Beyond Belief: The Science-Backed Way to Stop Limiting Yourself and Achieve Breakthrough Results (Amazon, Bookshop)*.

Most of us recognize that a huge part of what motivates us – or not – is our own thinking. In this conversation, Nir and I explore where our beliefs get in the way and how we can align them just a bit to help us move forward.

Key Points

A sentence starting with “I am…” can be among the most dangerous in any language. Often, our beliefs limit us.

Belief is the foundation of the motivation triangle that includes benefit and behavior. Yet, we often overlook beliefs.

Curt Richter’s study of rats in the 1950s shows how an animal’s belief system can massively influence its behavior.

The real question isn’t “Is this belief true?” but rather, “Does this belief serve me?”

You can choose beliefs based on usefulness, not certainty.

Difficulty may mean we are not cut out for something, but it might also be evidence of growth. Too often, we quit too soon.

Progress comes from consistent action, not perfect plans.

Resources Mentioned

Beyond Belief: The Science-Backed Way to Stop Limiting Yourself and Achieve Breakthrough Results (Amazon, Bookshop)* by Nir Eyal.

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Rebecca Hinds: Your Best Meeting Ever

Rebecca Hinds is a leading expert on organizational behavior and the future of work. She founded and led the Work Innovation Lab at Asana and the Work AI Institute at Glean, where she partners with leading experts to help organizations transform their work with AI. She is the author of Your Best Meeting Ever: 7 Principles for Designing Meetings That Get Things Done (Amazon, Bookshop)*.

Considering the amount of time we all spend in meetings, it’s odd that most organizations do so little to measure meeting results. If that’s sounding familiar, this conversation between Rebecca and me will show you exactly how to get started.

Key Points

Metrics that only measure the costs of meetings (dollars and time) can be useful, but rarely capture the full picture.

Use Return on Time Invested (ROTI) anonymously to survey attendees to determine if a meeting was a good use of time. Also ask, “What would it take for you to improve your rating by one point?”

Survey sparingly to avoid survey fatigue. Bringing in a survey 10% of the time is a benchmark to start from.

If the amount of time in meetings vastly exceeds 10 hours a week, there’s likely an opportunity to scale back or redefine the work before or after meetings to use time better.

Equal speaking time in meetings is a key indicator of team performance. Be transparent with employees about any technology you use to capture data.

Punctuality and attendance rate are indicators of how valued meetings are for people.

Resources Mentioned

Your Best Meeting Ever: 7 Principles for Designing Meetings That Get Things Done by Rebecca Hinds (Amazon, Bookshop)*

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Lily Zheng, Fixing Fairness

Lily Zheng is a sought-after speaker, strategist, and organizational consultant who specializes in hands-on systemic change to turn positive intentions into positive outcomes for workplaces and everyone in them. A dedicated changemaker and advocate, Lily has had their work published in the Harvard Business Review, New York Times, and NPR. They are the author of Fixing Fairness: 4 Tenets to Transform Diversity Backlash into Progress for All (Amazon, Bookshop)*.

When it comes to fairness in the workplace, our society is quick to zero in on what divides us. Yet, there is broad agreement across all demographics on many key principles. In this conversation, Lily and I explore how leaders can influence the system to better work for everyone.

Key Points

Many of us assume that fewer people support the value of diversity than actually do. When asked, 82% of people support pro-diversity statements.

The most popular/traditional approaches to fixing fairness in the workplace tend to be the least effective.

Our tendency is to focus on the behavior of individuals, when in fact organizational systems have the most significant impact on fairness.

When considering a fairness initiative or intervention, begin with the practice of understanding and storytelling, just like many change initiatives.

Resist the temptation to check boxes with “quick fixes” such as simply bringing in a speaker or hosting a one-time event. This rarely helps in any sustainable way and sometimes worsens existing dynamics.

If you have a seat at the leadership table, make the case for thoughtful design and involvement of stakeholders at all points in the process, just as many effective organizations do on any strategic change initiative.

Resources Mentioned

Fixing Fairness: 4 Tenets to Transform Diversity Backlash into Progress for All by Lily Zheng (Amazon, Bookshop)*

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Phil Gilbert: Irresistible Change

Phil Gilbert is best known for leading IBM’s 21st-century transformation as their General Manager of Design. The transformation became the subject of a Harvard Business School case study, the documentary film The Loop, and feature articles in the New York Times and Fortune Magazine. He is the author of Irresistible Change: A Blueprint for Earning Buy-In and Breakout Success (Amazon, Bookshop)*.

We’ve all been through mandated change initiatives more times than we can count. But what if change wasn’t a mandate, but an offer – or even an invitation? In this conversation, Phil and I explore how to make change irresistible.

Key Points

Change should be regarded as a high-value-add product.

Don’t mandate change. Offer change.

Your goal is sustained cultural adoption, not improving immediate competency.

Start small, but cover all your bases on a reduced scale. Make a great cupcake instead of a mediocre wedding cake.

People buy brands, not products. Branding change allows you to define the values and message that goes with it.

Resources Mentioned

Irresistible Change: A Blueprint for Earning Buy-In and Breakout Success by Phil Gilbert (Amazon, Bookshop)*

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