What Fresh Hell: Parenting, Relationships, and Making Life Better, with Two Funny Moms

What if the fact that we sometimes we "lose it" as parents doesn't make us bad parents? What if those times stem from an overwhelmed nervous system, and what happens when we get curious about what's underneath?

Marriage and family therapist Dr. Cassidy Freitas, host of the "Holding Space" podcast and author of the new book MOM NEEDS A MOMENT, explains why parents "lose it," what our emotional reactions are really telling us, and how we can interrupt generational patterns without striving for perfection.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How childhood experiences shape your parenting triggers today.

The difference between guilt and shame.

Why repair after conflict is often more powerful than trying to be a perfect parent.

How social media and intensive parenting culture fuel parental burnout and self-criticism.

What "creating margin" means—and why a few moments of space can transform your relationship with your children.

How to recognize your triggers before reacting.

The simple phrase Dr. Freitas uses to calm her nervous system in difficult parenting moments.

Here's where you can find Dr. Freitas:

www.drcassidymft.com

@drcassidy on IG

Buy MOM NEEDS A MOMENT: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9781523533534

What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.

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What are the best ways for us to support our kids' interests? Should we help them become the best gymnasts and singers they can be, as soon as they show glimmers of true interest? Or are they better off exploring many interests, without all of that added pressure?

From travel sports to elite ballet training and specialized extracurriculars, childhood activities feel increasingly professionalized, with a lot less room for beginners, dabblers, or kids who just want to have fun.

This week, we're wondering whether encouraging curiosity and exploration may be healthier than pushing early specialization.

We discuss:

The difference between supporting a child's interests and managing their career

Why exploration—not specialization—is often the key to discovering lifelong passions

How parents can praise effort and enjoyment instead of performance

Why your child's purpose may be much bigger than any single job or talent

How to encourage resilience when interests change or dreams evolve

Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

Lindsay Karp for Business Insider: My parents told me to have a career that could support me. I'm telling my kids to follow their passions.

Daniel B. Peters for HuffPost: Are We Missing the Mark If We Support Our Children's Passions?

Lisa Heffernan for the NYT: Our Push for ‘Passion,’ and Why It Harms Kids

Susan Newman for Psychology Today: How to Support and Nurture Your Child's Passions

What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.

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This month, our "Deep Dive" is into some of our past episodes about screen time: the effects it has on our kids, how tech companies engineer their devices to be as addictive as possible, and how we can allow our kids to enjoy screens with supportive limits.

The dreaded question "When should my kid get a phone?" is one we're asked often. These days "whether" is not part of the equation, and the ages at which our kids' peers are getting phones seems younger than ever.

Dr. Catherine Pearlman, author of the new book ⁠First Phone: A Child's Guide To Digital Responsibility, Safety, and Etiquette⁠, is the founder of ⁠The Family Coach⁠ and a licensed clinical social worker who has been working with children and families for more than 25 years. First Phone– a book written not for parents, but for our kids– puts the risks and rewards of a phone in perspective for our children, and helps them consider what parameters they themselves might want to put on their phones and how they can use them wisely.

In this episode, Catherine, Amy and Margaret discuss:

What we often don't think about when we hand our kids their first phones [12:55]

When kids should get their own social media accounts [17:55]

How to teach kids about digital consent [31:00]

Here's where you can find Catherine:

⁠www.thefamilycoach.com⁠

@thefamilycoach on FB/Twitter

@thefamilycoachsays on IG

Find Catherine's book in our bookshop: ⁠https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780593538333⁠

What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.

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Laura Clery has built a massive digital empire, of over 25 million followers, offering her own blend of silly sketch comedy and unflinchingly vulnerable reality. In this interview, Laura tells Margaret about her new memoir, WHAT DOESN'T KILL YOU MAKES YOU HOTTER , and the unraveling of a marriage shaped by sobriety, relapse, codependency, fame, and the pressure of living so much of life online.

Laura and Margaret discuss:

Her experience raising a child on the autism spectrum

What happens when a relationship falls apart in public

Why it can be hard to recognize destructive patterns from the inside

How motherhood has made Laura brave

Here's where you can find Laura:

@laura.clery on FB

@lauraclery on IG and TikTok

@LauraMarieClery on YouTube

Listen to Laura's podcast Idiot

Buy WHAT DOESN'T KILL YOU MAKES YOU HOTTER: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9781668087343

What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.

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You know how sometimes when you're in charge, in a really hard moment, you keep watching the door for an actual grownup to show up? Because it can't possibly be 42-year-old YOU who's in charge at this moment?

In this episode we discuss the strange experience of being the person in charge while also feeling wildly underqualified. From broken bones and dinner logistics to taxes, travel mishaps, and medical decision-making, here are the times when we— and our listeners— were hoping for an authorit figure besides ourselves to show up and fix everything.

Join our Facebook group to see all of our listeners' hilarious responses!

What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.

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